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A man in a girls' world
05 Nov 2019 - 05 Nov 2019

A man in a girls’ world


Date: November 05, 2019

Venue: Mill Hill School, The Ridgeway, Mill Hill Village, London, NW7 1QS

Cost: Member £210 / Non-member £260

Audience: Boarding staff, Head of Boarding, Deputy Head, Medical staff


Why should you attend?

Girls are complex, they may be overly emotional, and sometimes, men just don't understand why they do the things they do.

For a male Houseparent, running a girls’ boarding house can be a minefield.  In this one-day course, Jackie will explain why girls are the way they are and give effective ways of helping girls. BSA Director of Safeguarding, Standards and Training, Dale Wilkins, will share best practice guidelines for working in such environments.


  1. To outline the differences between genders
  2. To gain effective help in how to talk, listen and work with girls and young women
  3. To understand female friendships and how to help with friendship fall outs
  4. Working with girls and young women to bring out the best in them



10 – 10:30           Tea/Coffee on arrival

10:30                   Welcome and Introduction

10:35                   Session 1 – Gender differences, why they matter and how to use them

11:30                   Tea/Coffee

11:45                   Session 2 – How to listen to girls and young women, why it matters

12:45                   Lunch

13:30                   Session 3 – Female friendships and Working with strong emotions

14:30                   Tea/Coffee

14:45                   Session 4 – Working safely, protecting students and yourself

15:30                   Close


Wider context and/or application to the Boarding sector:

Men and women have differing emotional responses. This course sets out to identify these, giving a clear understanding of young women’s’ emotions, which in turn will help men to work with young women effectively.

Outcomes and resources:

All materials used during the day, including a PDF of the PowerPoint will be sent to delegates.  Further suggestions of material will be made and will be available on request after the day.



Speakers: Jackie Cox & Dale Wilkins, Director of Safeguarding, Standards and Training, BSA

Jackie has trained teachers and teaching professionals on many issues surrounding young people for the past 30 years. She has a degree in Psychology and a diploma in counselling and is a very experienced counsellor, teacher and counselling supervisor working in schools and on an independent basis. Her casework, which covers more than 30 years, covers a wide variety of conditions concerning relationship, either with self or others. In 2005, she set up Jackie Cox Educational Training, where she is the sole trainer (  Jackie has had articles published on Self Harm and Mental Health issues in magazines and national newspapers.

Jackie works for Lighthouse Professional training and the BSA for their Professional Development Certificate and their Professional Practice Certificate as well as The Girls Day School Trust. Jackie worked as a Samaritan for many years where she undertook prison visits. Later she co-ordinated Harrow Victim Support Scheme and was the first counsellor to be trained specifically to deal with cases of rape. Jackie worked at Harrow School for more than 18 years, teaching PSHE and acting as a counsellor to the boys. In September 2007, she was appointed as the school counsellor for St Paul’s Girl’s school in Hammersmith, working mainly with the Senior girls, In September 2010, she was appointed as counsellor and trainer at St Helen’s School in Northwood.  Jackie works almost exclusively with older teens and with those who teach and support them.


Dale joined the BSA during Summer 2017 with responsibility for safeguarding and standards.  In July 2019 he also assumed responsibility for the BSA’s training programme, including both day seminars and accredited training courses.  Dale leads on all safeguarding and inspection matters for the BSA, including managing the Commitment to Care Charter, the annual Safeguarding Conference, the Safeguarding Forum.   He has also developed a process of BSA Accreditation for our overseas members. 

For 31 years Dale was a boarding practitioner.  After boarding positions at Norwich School and Tettenhall College, Dale became a Housemaster at Old Swinford Hospital in 1992, and was promoted to Deputy Head in 2007, and subsequently also DSL. He has also been a multi-agency trainer for the Dudley Safeguarding Children’s Board and has been closely involved in inspection in state and independent boarding since 2002.

Dale had previously been a BSA course tutor since 1998 and developed the BSA Self-Assessment Toolkit.


Mill Hill School, Mill Hill School, The Ridgeway, Mill Hill Village, NW7 1QS, United Kingdom